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Friday, March 11, 2011

The Mean Girls at the Park 3-11-11

Hudson,

OH MY!! My heart was breaking today, but I don't think yours was.

We went to a park today at The Scottish Rite hospital - they have a neat park there. There were five girls, about 8 or 9 years old. You followed them all over. You noticed them right from the beginning and I knew it was over. You did not pay attention to anything else. You kept saying, "Those girls are crazy," and " I want to play with those girls." Well, it did not start out well. You did not know what to say really and kind of let out a loud grumble - like a gorilla! It was actually kind of funny. You were like "GRRRR, OOO OOOO AHHHH AHHH." Such a boy! Its like you saw some pretty girls and you didn't know what to say, "Uhhh, uhhhh, grrrrrr, uhhhh." Precious baby. So, they looked at you like you were nuts. Then you said, to them and me, "Mamma, those girls need to pay attention." You kept saying it and you were kind of screaming it, which made these girls give you an even crazier look. I finally said, "Pay attention to what baby?" Then you said, "Pay attention to me." I could have just melted. This little girl said, "I am not going to pay attention to you." I just felt so bad for my baby. How could she say that?! Mean girl! It's challenging parenting when someone hurts your baby, however, I don't think you were hurt. You just kept following them, standing up to them and going back for more. They went into the girl's bathroom and shut you out and I had to go get you. I said, "Baby, we cannot go in the girl's bathroom. They want privacy."

They were not nice and did not want you to follow them. You had no clue at first and kept following them, however, you started to notice they were not so nice, but you still followed them everywhere. If they would walk off, you would said, "Mamma, where are the girls?" At one point, this one little girl said. "We do not want to play with you." I could have slapped her! My heart broke. I was thinking, "He's only 2!" But, they were only 8 and couldn't possibly get that you were only 2. I must remember that all children are uncivilized beings.

I kept saying, "Hudson why would you want to play with girls who are not nice? I do not want you to play with them." I said this to you at one point right in front of them. So bad of me! I stooped down to an 8-year old girl's level - great. I could not help it. I kept asking you that and you would say, "Mamma stop." It was awful for me. I know I can't fight your battles and I will have to step away when you are older. It will be hard and heartbreaking at times. However, it will make you stronger and wiser. You are strong and tough though - you can handle a lot. I saw that today when you just kept following them. You are going to have perseverance - a fantastic quality.

I was getting so annoyed by the end. I really didn't understand why you kept following them. Girls can be so cruel. Girls have never been my string suit. I had lot of guy friends growing up - girls are difficult, however, they will rule your life someday, so you better be nice to them. I told you that today at the park, I was like "Baby you have to be nice to girls if you want them to play with you. You can't grunt and scream when you walk up to them." Is that funny or what? When I think about the whole thing now - it's a bit funny. I was so upset for you at the time. I also told you that you had to be nice to girls even when they are not nice to you. You will go through so many girl problems and scenarios. They have just begun, which is what Daddy told me while telling him this story. You remember though - girls are flowers, always respect them and treat them with kindness. If one is not nice to you, be a man and just politely walk away - it won't be worth it and there will be many girls out there.

I still don't understand why you kept following those mean girls. Are you just that girl crazy? You basically summed it up for me when I asked, "Why do you keep following these girls when they are not nice?" You said, "because they are girls and they are pretty." Yes, you did! Oh boy, you are going to be trouble. Insight into the future.

I love you my little Romeo (always be a humble and nice Romeo),

Mamma

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